Good news! Your boyfriend has discovered the magic of prostate stimulation! It's a wonderful, wonderful world of anuses and amazing orgasms, and fingers up the bum. The prostate gland sits between the bladder and the penis and is roughly the size of a walnut. The prostate produces a fluid that protects the sperm during and after ejaculation to help your swimmers live longer and get where they need to go! In the context of sex and sexual practices, the prostate is referred to as the P-spot. Aside from being an essential organ that keeps sperm safe and healthy, the prostate feels really, really good when stimulated!
Now, your boyfriend loves to have a finger up his bum because that's how you stimulate the P-spot! Many men report P-spot stimulation to feel a lot like the beginning build of an orgasm - you can imagine why someone would want to hold onto that feeling. Now, if you want to get involved in this orgasmic ass action while you and your man are getting down and dirty, it's a lot easier than you may think! Firstly, make sure your hands are clean and that you've trimmed and filed your nails. Then get them excited! The prostate swells and enlarges when the person is aroused. So, get them going with a cheeky hand-job to get started! Once you feel like the excitement has started to build lube up a finger and start to gently rub your partner's butthole. Make sure you're checking in with your partner to ensure they're still comfortable with what's going on. Once they begin to relax, slowly insert your finger. The P-spot is reached from a couple centimetres inside the rectum and should feel slightly firm like a peach. Don't worry - you'll be able to tell when you're hitting the right spot by the look on your partner's face!
If you're going to be focussing on other ... activities while getting down, try introducing some anal toys into the bedroom! This means you can both have your hands free for some more fumbling and fondling. Some of the most popular anal toys on the market are butt plugs! A butt plug sits inside the rectum and has a flared base to prevent it being 'sucked in.'
If you're in the market for some more intense stimulation, an anal vibrator might be more up your alley. Much like a butt plug these toys need to be flared or have some sort of handle like a pull-ring to make sure they don't get lost inside the rectum. A vibrating anal toy rests against the prostate and stimulates it through the vibrations it causes. Some people may find this too intense, and may prefer to have their prostate stimulated by using a dildo to provide a 'rubbing' sensation across the prostate.
There you have it! Now you know why your boyfriend likes a finger up the bum. And if they are still yet to discover the amazing sensations of the P-spot, show them this article and see if that changes their mind. As always, make sure to discuss any new toys or activities you may want to introduce to the bedroom. It's important all parties know what is going on and what is going to be used during any sexual activity, so have that conversation and spice up your sex life!